Bullying is a huge problem today. While it was something limited to the schoolyard in decades past, bullying has found new avenues to exhibit itself in modern society. It could be a co-worker or a boss, or someone online. It could even be a family member. There is no reason to allow this behavior to cripple you. It may be hard to learn to stand up for yourself but failing to do so will have you pegged as a target your entire life. Here are 10 ways to end and recover from bullying: Tell someone. The most important thing you can do to end bullying is to tell someone. This…

Many people try to help friends and family when they face something unpleasant. It could be a job loss, a death, or just a daily crisis. While they intend to offer hope and promise, sometimes their words just add to the pain. This is what is called toxic positivity. Toxic positivity is defined as the overgeneralization of a happy, optimistic state that results in the denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience. Examples of Toxic Positivity There are examples of this behavior all around. Some easy examples are those who ignore, downplay or dismiss emotions after a traumatic event. Another sign of it is to pretend everything…

Do you ever find yourself in a time pressure and you catch yourself making mistakes such as sending out a “reply all” message instead of just replying to the person? Once you do it though, you realize that you are going to face negative feedback for your mistake and for the information that you revealed? Do you know the panic and dread that can come from this? Do you feel that your behavior hurts you when you are stressed? All of us have been in a situation where we wish we could do it over. We look at the things we did wrong and we realize that if we could…

Getting rid of messes in your life can help you to improve your state of mind and to have less stress. When you put things in their right place and you increase your self-care, you can change how your mind works and improve how you feel. You are living in a time where everything is very busy, and this can cause you to have bad habits that can lead to stress and anxiety. Having a big mess in your house or a lot of clutter can cause you to be stressed out and cause you to not be able to function at your best. Putting things away around your house…

Nothing can bring all of our vulnerabilities and fears to the surface quite as dating can. It’s challenging to stay open and honest, and easy to get discouraged. It sometimes feels as though you’re a contestant on some cheesy reality TV show. It’s as though you’re serving yourself up on a platter and asking others to judge you. You forget that you’re looking for an ideal romantic partner, and that’s all. Too often we’re overwhelmed with messages from potential matches we’re just not that into, or they’re flat-out jerks. We go on date after date after date, and many of them end disastrously. We reject, or we have to reject,…

Life is hard and it can be hectic but you always have to make sure that you are doing the right things and meeting deadlines.  There is always a huge list that never ends of things that you need to do. Within a day, you are trying to figure out how you can get everything done and then sit down to have your dinner.  You find there is never enough time to attend to your own needs and you can go for weeks without having any satisfaction. Make sure that you are doing things to be satisfied in your life and here are some ways to do it. Connect with…

Every generation has had to deal with bullies, usually around middle school age. Now it seems that bullies are emerging sooner in the younger grades. How do you spot it and what can you do? Bullying takes many forms.  It ranges from the physical such as pushing or hitting. It can also be psychological  and verbal like name calling and spreading rumors. Social media has only popularized the bullying by bringing further attention to the bullies themselves. These bullies can operate quite freely after school hours using text messages and emails. This is called cyber bullying and is quite dangerous because, despite of what is believed, the internet is forever.…