Well, now that summer is almost here, it’s time to grab a beach towel, pick out a cool pair of shades and head down to your local mall where you can find Abercrombie and Fitch selling their now infamous pre-teen swim suit that includes a padded push up bra. According to recent stories, at as young as seven years old, you can get one of these bathing suites and sport it in order to show that even at that young age, you may actually have some cleavage.
So is this too young, is this inappropriate, does this not only send a sexual message to our girls, but also to our boys? Yes, probably.
I will say however that most girls do start thinking about having boobies around that age. Is this something that has just started with our recent generations? Honestly I’m not sure because I wasn’t a little girl growing up in the 1950’s. Obviously anything of a sexual nature was more taboo back then and less talked about but did this mean that there was less of a sexual nature going back on in those days and that somehow the children were more innocent or pure? No, probably not.
I personally can remember being very little and wanting to play dress up with my mom’s things. I don’t remember wanting to wear her bra necessarily, so I can say pretty certainly that the idea of having breast didn’t hit me until I was about ten or eleven and when I actually did start growing them. Then I can remember after getting a bra that I may have felt the need to fill it out a little more by stuffing some tissue here or there. Don’t think I actually wore it to school due to the knowledge of people knowing there was no way that they could have grown that quickly and the possibility of tissue falling out somewhere.
On the other hand, I can say that my daughter has been fascinated with my boobs for awhile (she’s six now). While I was curious about my own mother’s, I don’t recall being like my own daughter, and telling her that I wanted any. I must admit that I was a little surprised when my daughter told me this as we were driving down the road one day, but only about as much as when she also told me she wanted pink hair. Pink hair and boobs at five years old…wow, what a wish list! lol.
My daughter isn’t seven yet, but I couldn’t imagine her wearing a push up bra next year at the pool. Actually I don’t even care too much for her wearing a two piece, but if it’s cute and she really likes it, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Fortunately this year she seems to be happy with her one pieces and hasn’t expressed any real desire for a two piece even though she has before and worn them in the past.
I don’t know, I think the problem here is less about what is being sold in a store and more about whether your daughter has the desire to wear something them. If so, then she is probably not being told enough to wait til she is older on certain things. For the most part, I think that strategy has worked with my daughter. She doesn’t get everything she wants and she will be told that some things you do need to wait on. Her having boobies is one of them. Unfortunately, for her, I know it’s only a few years away.