Some parents believe that they cannot be friends with their children because being their friend means that you are not a good parent.  The truth is, being your child’s friend will not hurt them or you and it will not come to a point where you are not able to discipline them.  Here are some ways you can be their friend and their parent: Show Them Kids learn when they see what other people are doing.  If you are not doing what you say or what you tell them needs to be done, they will think that you are not a follower and that you lie.  Before you sit them…

When you take your kids places that cause them to be afraid like a theme park or maybe even down a big slide, they need to know that they are safe.  It is the job of the parents to make sure that their kids feel safe and that they grow to be strong and brave.  There has to be ways to keep the children from being full of fear, otherwise, they will become full of stress and anxiety.  There are ways that you can give your child the feelings of security. Time One of the easiest ways to make your child feel secure is to give them time.  Laugh and…

Guiding our kids and keep them moving through the everyday routine is part of our job description as parents. This means setting limits, denying requests and correcting behavior. At times we can be emotionally generous such that our kids find it hard to see us as “negative.” Most frequently, love, affirming interactions create a positive balance in our relationship account making our kids give us the benefit of the doubt. Hence, creating such positive interactions with your kid is very important. Research indicates that for us to maintain a healthy and happy relationship that can deal with normal problems and everyday stress, we require at least five positive interactions to…

Does it feel like your kids have suddenly stopped want to talk with you?  Prior to entering school, it seemed like they always wanted to share with you.  Now that they are a bit older it seems like they are shutting you out.  We have compiled a few helpful strategies to encourage your kids to talk with you, and with more practice, a more natural and longer lasting dialogue can be established. Take advantage of conversation openings Kids often can leave breadcrumbs of information in the simple exchanges they use with parents.  By noticing and responding they can feel more comfortable going into greater detail.  Kids are not savvy in…

Most people with kids have heard the phrase, “You can’t be their parent and their friend,” but the truth is, you can.  Although we have to sometimes be a boss, this does not have to be a negative thing.  Here are some things that you need to consider before you tell them that you are not their friend. Hurting Your Child When you tell your child that you cannot be their friend, it can cause them to feel that they are unsupported.  They always have our backs and love us and we can always count on our children to love us, but sometimes we do not give our children the…

Always take care of yourself You must care for your own needs well before you do anything. You can do everything and be at your best for your children only when you are feeling well-rested and healthy. Several parents always keep the needs of their kids and their last forgetting that this will only result in a never-ending cycle of frustrations.  Make time and do things that will contribute to your well-being. Your children are looking up to you and you need to be well equipped and ready to be there for them. Join hands with other single parents Many times you might think that you are the only one…